For the Momma Who Wants Her Joy Back

by | Oct 19, 2020

A few years ago I had a conversation with my son that highlighted an area of my heart which needed Jesus’s help. We were standing in the kitchen when my son, then seven at the time, said,

“I’m sorry this is so frustrating, Mom.”

I should have thanked him, but instead I tried to correct him.

“I’m not frustrated.”

But even I didn’t believe my short tense words. I wasn’t fooling anyone.

He paused and then asked, “Then what are you?”

The truth is… he was right. I was frustrated. I didn’t feel happy. And even though I should have been proud of his kind heart, I hated that he noticed.

I always wanted to be a happy momma. I pictured myself as the mom who chooses fun even if it meant cleaning up messes or taking time away from whatever else needed to be done. I started out that way. When my kids were really little I would do things like pull out rolls of wrapping paper and tape them to the kitchen floor. I’d pour out some finger paints and let my kids make art while wearing only their diapers. They’d make these huge messes. There would be paint on the wrapping paper and their hands and feet and bodies. After, I’d put them into the bath and wash them clean.

As I stood there in kitchen talking to my son I realized that version of myself was gone. I don’t remember her changing or leaving.

She got busier, I guess. Or maybe she just got more impatient. More easily frustrated. Maybe she lived long enough with the mess and just wanted to maintain order instead. I don’t know exactly. I do know that I decided right then that I wanted my joy back.

I wanted to be the happy momma. I wanted to enjoy my life and not just manage it. I wanted to enjoy my kids and not just feel like I was keeping the ship that is our home from siking. I wonder if you feel the same way.

Scripture says that the joy of the Lord is your strength, but I think maybe we got busy trying to do it all in our own strength. We knew we needed His help. We tried to give it over to Him, but deep down we just kept doing it ourselves. And we ended up tired, frustrated, and run down. 

We forgot that God’s joy isn’t just our strength. It’s our joy too.

So what’s the answer for a momma who wants her joy back?

Well, here’s what we don’t do. We don’t go looking for joy. It’s about as effective as adding, “Be happier” to our to-do lists.

The truth is, the Lord has everything we need in His presence. It’s all found in Him.

So while we could try and make our own happiness, or find our own joy, or just decide to be better… I think we would find ourselves right where we started.

The answer is Jesus. It’s always been Jesus. The answer will always be Jesus.

By that I mean, we don’t chase joy. Instead, we stop and invite Jesus into regular moments like this one while you scroll the internet in the middle (or beginning or end) of your day. We look around and say, “I can’t do it all, and I need You to help me. Help me enjoy my life. Help me enjoy my kids. Take away the burden of frustration that’s stealing my joy and help me remember that all of the things I’m worried about You’ve already figured out.”

Just one moment with Jesus was enough to change many people’s lives throughout history. I believe inviting His love into this moment could change just about everything for you. 

So if you are the momma who wants her joy back, take a deep breath and know that tonight we are praying for you.

Tonight we pray for the momma who wants her joy back. Lord, there are some days it’s just missing. She makes it to the end of the day and feels like she didn’t enjoy her life or her children enough. She wishes she was happier and isn’t sure where to start to change. Lord, Your Word says Your joy is her strength. Not the joy that comes from a full night of sleep or having the laundry or dishes done. Your joy planted in her heart changes everything. So, tonight we ask You to give her Your joy like a gift. A gift she can’t make on her own but is just handed to her because You love her. Calm her heart. Fill it with hope. We ask in Jesus’s name, Amen. @Midnightmomdevotional

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