What You Probably Need to Hear the Most Right Now

My mom answered the phone. “Hey! What are you up to?” I asked casually even though I knew that she was sitting at her desk at work – just like she was every Tuesday at 2:15.

I think she answered me, but I wasn’t really listening. Honestly, she could have told me that she was meeting the President for afternoon tea and I likely would have still continued as I did.

“Yeah? Oh. That sounds important. I’m sure that will go well…. Hey, wanna hear a funny story?”

I ended the pleasantries abruptly and began to share the reason for my call. I didn’t want to sound panicked – even though I was. So, I continued as though I had just seen the funniest thing.

“Well, Little Man and I were sitting on the floor and he was reaching for a toy and he was doing such a good job sitting up that I just had my hand behind him a little to give him extra balance and well, he leaned too far to the side and he tipped over and I couldn’t grab him fast enough and he bumped his head on a wooden toy and then he just sort of stared at me.”

Long Pause

I continued with a little more anxiety in my voice. “He didn’t cry and he’s not sleepy or lethargic and he didn’t throw up or anything, so I’m about 99.9% sure he doesn’t have a concussion, but… what do you think?”

My mom replied quickly. She knew what I had called to hear…

“I think he’s going to be just fine, Becky. I think you’re going to be okay too.”

This wasn’t the first phone call like this. It wouldn’t be the last either. Over the last 4 years I have made countless phone calls to my mom, the pediatrician (at 3 in the morning), and poison control (turns out that two large dabs of toothpaste are not cause for concern.)

Filled with anxiety and irrational perfectly normal mommy concerns, I have hung on the silence coming from the other end of the phone waiting desperately for someone to say….

“It’s going to be okay.”

Goodness. Those are powerful words.

But recently, I have come to realize that I don’t just crave those words as a momma. There are times when I am desperate to hear them as a wife, and a daughter, and a friend too. I need to be reminded of them constantly. A million ways I need to hear that it’s going to be okay… that I’m going to be okay…

So, honestly, I don’t know what brought you to this page today. I don’t know if you were referred here by a friend, or if you stumbled upon it through some link posted on your Facebook account. Perhaps you have been a reader for a while, or this is your first time here. But whatever brought you to my heart typed out in black letters across this safe small space, I just feel like I need to remind YOU…

It’s going to be okay, friend.

Maybe you are waiting for those two precious pink lines to show up or you just saw them for the first time today –

Or maybe you threw away another negative test this week or perhaps your hands shakily hold your first positive –

Maybe you just got engaged, or are only days away from a wedding –

Or maybe you don’t just wait eagerly for a wedding, but for a man who will give you a ring –

To the newlywed wondering what she just got herself into or the young bride still trying to figure it all out –

To the pregnant momma in the early days or the final days of pregnancy – even when uncertainty is overwhelming and fear seems loud –

To the momma at the kitchen sink rinsing out sippy cups or breaking a banana into the tiniest bites that can be pinched off that high chair –

And to the momma who cannot fit one more thing on her schedule and feels buried alive in the chaos of life –

To the wife who wonders how you and your husband got here and how you will ever find your way back –

And to the wife who finds herself alone – whether he left on purpose, or for business, or was taken from this life too soon –

To the woman who wonders what to do next, where to go next, and or has forgotten how to dream –

And to the woman who feels overlooked or unappreciated, unimportant or without value –

Listen to my heart, friend, “It’s going to be okay. You’re going to be okay.”

This one thing I know to be true… life has a way of moving forward. Clocks have a way of continuing to tick, and calendars have a way of continuing to flip. And while it feels as though we will be in this… this moment of uncertainty, or sadness, or anxiety, or pain, or desperation forever… Time has made us a promise.

Tomorrow is a new day. A new day full of hope and life and change.

Are you running low on hope today? Borrow mine.

I do not know where you are standing in this moment, but I do know that you’re not alone.

Listen carefully and let these words soak into your soul. It won’t always be this way. It won’t always be this hard, or this painful, or this overwhelming. It won’t always be this stressful, or this uncertain, or this difficult.

I’m honored to be the one to remind you today, “It’s going to be okay.”

Deep breath.

Now, let’s keep going.

 

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Comments

  • Queila says:

    So beautiful! All your posts bring tears to my eyes, so relatable and inspiring, thank you.

  • Jennifer says:

    I just wanted to say I’m thankful for you and this blog. I can’t tell you how many times yours posts minister to me in ways I truly need. So thank you

  • Rebecca says:

    Wow. Thank you. Just, Thank you.

  • Jessica B. says:

    You always know just what to say! Thank you so much for sharing! This was a much need pick me up today!

  • Autumn says:

    Thank-you so much for this timely post. I was able to say these words to a dear friend this morning. Her brother-in-law killed himself last week, their roof started leaking this morning, and she and her husband are arguing over when to leave for the 13-hour-long drive to the funeral. With 6 kids. So thank-you. I needed to hear it, and so did she.

  • Amber says:

    This is exactly what I needed to read this morning. In the craziness of life and being a first time mommy who also works full time, I don’t get to check your site everyday. However, when I do, it seems to hit right at home. This mommy has felt very overwhelmed, unsure if she is doing the right thing, and kind of lost with not only a sick boy, but one who is vigorously teething as well. Thank you for the pick me up and letting me know it is okay.

  • Susan says:

    This post is so what I needed to hear right now! I tend to be a worrier and life has been just too busy right now, especially since I am not healthy. My husband told me a long time ago that he has a little button right above his heart and if I press it he will tell me, “Everything is going to be Alright.” :) I haven’t needed to press it in a long time, but last night I found myself asking him, “Is everything going to be alright???”

  • Heidi says:

    Thank you for this. As I sit here in my office I read your words. I am a 39 year old mother of two biological daughters and 1 adopted daughter and just found out a mouth ago that we are expecting again. My marriage has had its rocky moments with stress over the adopted child. Now a pregnancy on top of this. I feel blessed to have God choose us to have another child but yet I am scared becaues I just had surgery while pregnant and the age that I am. I find myself happy but so scared. My youngest is 8! It has been a long time since having a child and if I said that this is going to be a easy change for me, I would be fooling myself. I have turned away from God and just now in the last few months have turned back to him. I needed this..not only for the baby, but for my other children, husband and most of all marriage.

    Thank you!

  • Kara says:

    This THIS is just what I needed to hear today. Thank you!

  • Martha Gill says:

    I have been on both ends of those phone calls, and you are so right– sometimes we just need to hear ‘no need to panic; everything is going to be okay.’
    I am long past the season you are currently in, but I LOVE reading your posts. They are so full of love and encouragement! Being a mother of little ones can be so isolating, and we need a community of sisters, friends, moms, and aunties to walk through it with us.

  • Carrie says:

    Thanks for this; I can’t BELIEVE there are no comments on here! I’m the friend who has been blindsided by another friends rage that I could be married to a man she can’t STAND…and now I apparently have to loose my friend because she hates him and thinks I must think the same way he does…and I don’t know how to explain to her that I’m an individual with my own mind…I don’t know WHY I have to explain that to someone I thought already understood that about me…

    So thank you for this. I’m going to remind myself that it’s going to be okay. Even though I’m probably never going to understand her thoughts and feelings on this because she will probably never speak to me again…

    Your post reminded me that I’ve been here before and I survived and thrived. And this too shall pass. I hope you have a great week and keep on writing!

    And GOD BLESS those Momma’s who are still with us and able and willing to pick up the phone to talk with us when we NEED them!!

  • Beth says:

    Thank you. That’s all I can say….thank you.

  • Marcie luttrell says:

    I am at work right now and on my break. I love reading your messages but today was really special. I had an argument with my hubby this morning and was feeling really down. So thank you for this message when I needed it most. And yes everything is going to be alright.

  • Jess King says:

    Thank you for this. I absolutely needed this. I am the wife who wonders how we got here and how can we ever find the happiness and love in our marriage again. I’m the mom who is so overwhelmed with all that needs to be done, I forget to cherish the moments with my little one. I’m the woman who has forgotten how to dream, how to see the silver lining, how to laugh in spite of hardships, how to love despite a broken heart. Thank you for reaching out to women everywhere, but today especially to me. <3

  • Melanie says:

    You have such a gift for writing- I stumbled into your blog a few months ago from a Facebook post and immediately began following. Your words are powerful and timely and I thank you for sharing your beautiful heart and love of the Lord with the world- God Bless!

  • Lauren Moscardelli says:

    I just wanted to sincerely thank you for your beautiful words. I had to share this article with my sister who recently discovered that for the second time in her short thirty years, she is fighting a battle against cancer. Words like that can take on a signifigant power in situations like this and I felt it important for you to know how much you helped out a family in need of the words to give a little hope. From the bottom of my heart. Thank you.

  • Cait says:

    I can’t even begin to describe how badly I needed this today! I had a pretty bad day. I feel like I may have made a bad decision with a job, that my husband is nowhere to be found in my marriage, that I’m broke, stressed out, exhausted, and overall just done! And as I called my husband on my way home to tell him this, his response was a rushed, brash, “I don’t have an answer for you, babe, what do you want me to say?” All I wanted was to hear that it’s all going to be okay! Our family, our marriage, our bills, my job, everything will be ok. And when I didn’t hear that, I felt more stressed and overwhelmed than I did before calling him. I cried the whole way drive home, I fact. My girlfriend just happened to post your blog on Facebook today and I opened it. So thank you! Thank you for being the kind of woman to uplift the women around her andletthem “borrow your hope”. You have no idea how beautiful this was and how badly it was needed today! Thank you ❤️

  • Jen says:

    Yep. It was me who was meant to read it. You have no idea. Well…maybe you do!! Thank you!

  • Brandy says:

    Thank you for being so open and transparent about all of
    the thoughts, triumphs, struggles, and fears that most women/moms have at
    some point in their lives. So many times we hide these things. It’s nice to know that others are feeling the same way!

  • Barb S says:

    As the Mum of “long since grown up” children, I need to hear this too … the age of your children is irrelevant, you never stop worrying about them. Thank you.

  • Gail Savage says:

    Your words ring so true to me; I was so blessed to be born to parents who believed those words with all their hearts. When my mother found herself pregnant with twins, with 5 children already at home and money so tight, she worried how to tell my dad. He grinned and said those magic words “It will all be okay.” Years later when I found myself a suddenly single momma with two babies of my own, Mom and Dad reassured me “it will be okay.” And it was. At 62 I have found that throughout my life, those positive words have made a difference. Thanks for this sweet remembrance.

  • Kristi says:

    Thank you I needed this today more than you could know. I don’t know how to quit focusing on the negative and just enjoy my children sometimes. I needed to hear that I’m not alone.

  • Brittany Saunders says:

    Im amazed at how this touched me. Im a single mom of three, just recently left my husband due to abuse within the relationship. This made me so happy to hear.

  • Debra kauffman says:

    Thank you so much for sharing your heart.

    I needed these exact words this morning.

    My son was run over by the front tire of a school bus March 3, 2014. We are making another long trip to Nemours Alfred Dupont hospital in Wilmington, DE again today. He is doing well, but the little setbacks (and some aren’t always little) are difficult. It is hard to watch your sweet six year old by suffer, cry out in pain EVERY SINGLE DAY. I appreciate your words and they are true. Everything is going to be okay!

  • Melanie Sullivan says:

    Thank you. From the bottom of my heart. Just… thank you.

  • Tanya Ferguson says:

    thank you!

  • Diane says:

    I am a grandma, with 9 grandkids and 2 sons and 2 daughters with spouces. One of the grands is from the son in law’s first marriage.. One daughter’s mother-in-law lives with her. Our grand daughter tells me I am not family because I do not live in her house. This Grand daughter is only four years young. The mother in law is always there. I asked my daughter and son in law to allow me to have time without his mother present so that my grand children would come to know myself and husband as their grands also. The mother in law’s husband passed a year ago or he would also still be living there also.
    At this point it is such an impossible situation I can just barely bear it.
    So your message today, was it will be ok. But it will not, because the mother in law will most likely be there for several years after I am gone. This creates all manner of feelings. I know that time takes care of all, but………………!
    Life goes on. I have others in my heart and it seems there is room for all even as tears fall.

  • Liz says:

    Thanks! This was much needed on a day like today! Your posts are inspiring. :)

  • Wendy says:

    There may have been times I needed to hear this more but honestly I cannot name one at the moment. The last couple of days have been terrible and today as I drove by the thruway exit my brain screamed “get on and drive away”. I feel so guilty for thoughts to just walk away. Truly, if someone in my family just stopped me and said those magic words, I think it wouldn’t be this bad. I don’t know why there is such comfort in others sharing their similar feelings of despair but I am grateful that there are people who just know how to say things. Thank you Stranger from the world of Facebook. You have reached me from afar and changed me. I promise to pay it forward.

  • Marissa Spirito says:

    I stumbled upon this page for the first time and today, at this very moment, “it’s going to be ok” is just what I needed to hear as tears roll down my cheeks, I actually believe that “I will be ok”. Thank you and God Bless.

  • A says:

    I can’t sleep, up late crying and crying. It’s a hard break up and I don’t want to breakup but I do but I don’t, you know? I thought we would be together forever, as cliche as that sounds. It hurts. It really really hurts and I’m confused and puffy and sad and my heart and whole chest hurts. I want to give up and hide. But as I’m lying in bed on my phone unable to sleep I find your writing. Thanks, friend. I needed to be told that it’s gonna be okay. Because it sure as hell doesn’t feel like it will be.

  • Ellyn says:

    I’ve never been to your beautiful blog before but today it was meant just for me. thank you.

  • sj says:

    Stumbled upon your post. Eyes are watering. Sometimes that’s exactly what we need to hear. It’s going to be ok.

  • Thank you. I needed that.

  • Ashley says:

    I found this in my facebook feed this morning and absolutely needed it. My beloved cat disappeared over a week ago, and I take the bar exam in 6 days. I am at my wit’s end trying to deal with the stress of both, so thank you. It brought tears to my eyes and at least a slight release of some of the stress I’ve been holding onto for so long.

  • Phoenix says:

    It is a wonderful notion. and would be more wonderful if i had a mother to say these things to me. But I have to ask….when will things be ok? 5 years and counting. 5 years in this dark whole and i still see no light. 5 years is too much and i wish everything was going to be ok but i am left just waiting and fighting for what seems like an eternity for nothing.

  • Shannon says:

    I came here from a Facebook link and just want to say thank you. I did need to hear these words today. I am feeling overwhelmed and I needed to be reminded that everything will end up exactly as it should. Thank you.

  • Dakota says:

    How can I subscribe to the blog?

  • Christie says:

    Thank you for writing this. A friend shared this post on facebook. I have made it a habit to spend little time on facebook and reading blogs because I often am brought down by what many people have to say. I am so glad that I did not pass this blog up. This post met me where I am at today, when so many blog posts about life and parenting are condemning or judgmental. Thank you for reminding me that everything will be ok!

  • I have never been on this site before and it was on my facebook feed. I clicked on it not knowing what it was. I just want to thank you. Life is life it moves on and Im usually an optimist about life but right now I’m struggling and this was what I needed so thank you from the bottom of my heart

  • Laura says:

    Thank you. <3

  • Shawn says:

    I came here from a friend’s post on Facebook. Thank you. Life as we knew it changed recently for my husband and me. Some days are easier than others. Some days hearing “it’s going to be okay” makes all the difference – water for the thirsty soul. Thank you, Becky. May you be blessed knowing that this post has touched a stranger when she needed it most.

  • Debbie Riffel says:

    God used you today, you have no idea! Thank you! I needed this so badly! <3 God bless you.

  • Anjali says:

    Thank you. I needed that.

  • Ashley says:

    I didn’t realize I needed this today until I read it. My family and I have been under so much stress and uncertainty lately that it has felt like at times I was drowning in everything. Between specialty appointments for my oldest child, 2 jobs for myself, a full time job for my husband, and full time college coursework coming up alarmingly fast, I just didn’t know if we were going to make it. But hearing someone say “It’s going to be okay,” just calms my nerves and I can finally breathe again. So thank you for this.

  • Joan says:

    Thank you for writing this. I am more on the the other side of this. My daughters have young children as do some of my co workers. This reminds me to just STOP and let them them know every once in awhile that it is going to be OK.

  • Kelly says:

    Thank you! I have never read your page or seen it before. Currently, I just became a single mother to 3 young children (3 and under) and I just resigned from my job because I couldn’t find an affordable place to live or daycare for my kids. I’ve had to move into my parents house in a town I know no one and have no job. Your words are so powerful!

  • Julie says:

    Though the tears are clouding my monitor, I thank you. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

  • Karen says:

    Thank you! It is truly amazing how much impact a simple sentence can make in a persons life. I just had a follow up appointment with my surgeon today after having benign tumors removed. In reviewing the pathology reports, they “incidentally” found cancer. I drove home devastated with tears flowing but had to gather myself to go home to my 4 children all under the age of 11 and a stay at home husband. We will figure things out as we always do.

    I believe things happen for a reason such as stumbling on this link someone shared on FB. I took a deep breath and will now move forward with my chin up!

    PS Cancer sucks!!!!

  • MJ Logan says:

    I never comment on blogs…but thank you. My husband is far away, my child refuses to sleep before 3 AM, and I still have two months alone. I really needed to read this. Thank you!

  • Katie says:

    I needed to read this. I’m a new mom to an almost 4 month old who is sweet as pie, but turning me into a zombie. That pales to the news I received today that a good friend’s husband has cancer. I cried reading this post, because it is so true that sometimes those words make a world of difference. Thank you for posting…you have a new, loyal reader!

  • Amy says:

    I didn’t realize I needed it til I read it. I fall under a few of those categories, thank you.

  • Ashley says:

    Thanks friend it was needed today!!

  • Vanessa says:

    My life has been very hard here lately and I come to this blog post because a friend told me this is what I needed to read it was my answer. Thank you for this. As I have financial problems come up like the seem to do all the time right now and as my father is slowly losing his battle to Multiple Sclerosis. I wanted to let you know that these words made me cry and made me realize that everything will be okay. Thank you so much this means more then you could possibly know at this moment in my life.

  • Shelley McCauley says:

    Thank you. You couldn’t possibly know how much I needed to read this today.

  • Beth Calhoun says:

    Wow. Just stumbled on this because a friend on FB liked it. This is beautifully written! My kids are a little older than yours (11 & 13) and I was going to comment that your little one will be ok, but instead, your words comforted and encouraged me. Thank you!

  • Kristina says:

    Thank you so much for being such an inspiration to me. It seems just when I need to hear the words, you happen to write them. I am so glad Faith sent me to your link one random day.

    God Bless.

  • Sasha says:

    Wow. That was beautiful.Thank-you so much for your kind words and inspiration.

  • Kelsey says:

    All I can say is thank you! Did not realize how much I needed to read this today until I found it. As I was reading I just started crying from all the stress and everything else bottle up inside.

  • Michelle says:

    Four months ago, my husband died and I have been in a tail spin since. Thank you.

  • ashley says:

    Thank you. I needed that!

  • Melissa Renard says:

    I felt like I was reading the words in my mind. Thank you for having the courage to share your beautiful words with us. ~M~

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  • heather says:

    This blog is very encouraging. I think I will have a good day just from reading this. See my family never tells me things are going to be ok because they see the wrong in everything I do. I am in a custody battle that’s getting nowhere and I am a great mother and love my son more than anything. Thank you for sharing this blog, I needed to hear the words of encouragement.

  • Lauren says:

    It was my first visit to your blog today – referred via my facebook mother groups, and oh yes I absolutely needed to hear those words. What a powerful message that applies to us all. Thank you for writing such a significant post.
    :)

  • Mika says:

    Funny how you come across certain things that seems was just meant for you @ the exact time you need it. All I can say is thank you, I still have tears rolling down my cheeks because it hit so close to home. I did need to hear that & I will continue telling myself that time does go on & I wont always feel this way…..thank you again!

  • Billi Hughes says:

    Your words are lovely and soothing and NEEDED. Thank you so much!

  • Nancy Brandt says:

    Thank you. My husband is in China for the next ten days, leaving me as a single mom to a 12-year-old (read: moody pre-teen) ADHD boy who hasn’t finished his summer reading and it’s around 100 degrees outside. Two of my good friends with whom I often have dinner weekly are selling their houses and moving, one out of state, so they are very busy and our dinners are on hold. I just free a bit abandoned and stuck, but your post reminded me that this, too, shall pass.

  • Kimi says:

    Wow. I really did need to hear this today. THANK YOU for this encouraging post. <3

  • Selina says:

    Just wanted I needed! Thank you!

  • Jodi says:

    Needed to read that. My life feels like a never ending hurricane. Battling for custody of my nonbiolgoical special needs son, losing my mom a few weeks ago, and my job being cut in half, its hard to keep going. Some days I’m surprised I am evening still standing! Thank you for that post! Sometimes its the simplest of things from a stranger that can melt some worries.

  • Kaitlyn Thompson says:

    My gosh, thank you so much! I needed this. This spoke to me as if you are sitting in front of me. Just what I needed in this time of hard ship. Everything is going to be okay!

  • roma says:

    thanks for the timey thoughts

  • Charity says:

    You showed up in my newsfeed today. I don’t know why, but I clicked. I don’t even know where I am right now. Well, I do. I am home with three kids, frantically getting ready for my oldest to turn 8 and my youngest to turn 4 next week. And the inevitable fit there will be from the 6 year old because it is not her birthday. I love where I am in life, but I’m stressing a little as I see my baby growing up, I’m worried about our 2nd year of homeschooling, I wrote a gut wrenching post last night that has me a bit raw, and I feel so fat and ugly. Sigh.

    And FYI, the youngest getting a big glob of dishwasher soap in their mouth is no biggie, they won’t like the taste and they will throw up. And you will get to clean the floor and the couch. I never learned about poison control until my youngest came. Sigh.

  • Kim says:

    I just wanted to say thank you. From the bottom of my heart. I came across this link on fb, and yes, I needed this so bad. My marriage took a severe blow this week and even though we are working through it all, it’s been incredibly hard. Throw in the everyday stresses of working full time, having a toddler, trying for another kid….It all piles up. This made me tear up a bit. Thank you so much.

  • Krissy says:

    Everything is not going to be ok for me. Thank you though..this would have really spoken to me any other time in my past. But I’m 31 years old in a 60 year old body and face as a result of postpartum complications. How can everything be ok ever? I’m trapped. I can only survive as you may imagine. My page is facebook.com/postpartumtruth if you want to follow my story.

  • Angie says:

    Thanks!!

  • Stephanie says:

    Thank you! I needed to hear that it is going to be ok. I have a lot on my mind lately and I am stressed and anxious that it won’t go the way that I hope. Reading your words brought me some peace as I know you’re right. It will all be ok.

  • Missy says:

    One of my facebook “friends” (who I only “know” through my husband on facebook only)had posted this and I clicked it to read. It’s been one rough day (never mind the one rough week that this day is attached to) and I’m not really the type to go and share my problems and look for comfort. And yet, just when I needed it most, here it was. Found totally by accident! Thank you! I REALLY needed this today!

  • Andrea Vedaa says:

    I am a 32 yr old mother of 2. 4 weeks ago I went to see my doctor about some strange lower abdominal pain. Turns out I have 3 softball sized growths and need to have a full hysterectomy and partial bowel resection next week. Last week, as I stood at the receptionist window at my oncologists office scheduling my surgery, I worried out loud to the woman behind the counter. “Wow, I better get school clothes shopping done now. I need to clean my house so I don’t sit and worry while I can’t move for 4-6 weeks. I need to plan Ems birthday party for the week before her birthday since I will be in the hospital on her actual birthday.” She smiled and said “Crazy what we mothers worry about when we are in these situations.” As I walked out with my mom and sister, I thought to myself, “Not to mention what I will need to prepare the kids for if this goes badly.” I haven’t really displayed feelings about any of it yet. Until now. Scrolling through my phone reading random stuff. Your message hit me like a ton of bricks. A million calls to my mom the last 10 years played back in my mind. I hope to be there to get my daughters calls. Thank you for calming some anxiety for me today. Tears streaming…your simple words made a difference to this mom, and I thank you. Everything will be ok. ❤

  • april robert says:

    Thank you for the reminder. This is so beautifully written

  • Debbie says:

    Thank you for these words & thanks to my dear friend who sent this to me. Today is the 4 month anniversary of my husband’s death. Sometimes it takes all i have to put one foot in front of the other. Today was especially bad. Everything will be okay, but I sure needed to hear those words today.

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  • Samantha says:

    I found this for a reason. God knew I needed it, but he’s the only one. I have no choice anymore more but to believe things happen for a reaon- time moves on and if it’s not this struggle it will be something else, but in between its going to be okay. — I sign everything either with love or always so your closing made me smile. Thank you.

  • Maranda says:

    Thank you.

  • Laura says:

    I don’t know just how I stumbled across your blog the other day, but I read this one today, and now I understand why. God led me to you. I am struggling. My heart is heavy and my mind races constantly. I have come to doubt things that I was once certain of, and question things, that I never before doubted. I am 28 years old, and a newly single mom. My husband did not walk out on us. He didn’t find someone else. He was not a bad person at all. In fact, he was the most amazing man in the entire world. He wasn’t one in a million, he was my once in a lifetime; but he had cancer, and he died. I struggle each day. It is hard to wake up, it is hard to go to sleep. It is hard not to cry, or to remember that I have to be strong for someone else, add going back to college so that I can some how support my family on my own, answering questions that I myself don’t understand, and not only taking care of a 6 year old, but also taking care a mother with kidney failure, and a father, which is paralyzed and I guess you could say things are a bit more than difficult. Most days, I feel the expectations are too high, and that I am doomed for failure. I am so alone, and I am completely over whelmed 24/7. As I mentioned earlier, I have come to question things. My Faith has been a bit weak, and I often find myself thinking, over analyzing, and shamefully – doubting. Your words hit my soul today, and I want to thank you. I truly feel God led me to you, to confirm that “It’s going to be okay.” God Bless you, and thank you again.

  • Stephanie S. says:

    I’m in tears reading this. Trying to deal with a (2nd) miscarriage and a teething toddler I really needed to read/hear those words more than you could ever know.

  • Stasha says:

    I really did need this today. Thank you.

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  • LG says:

    Thank you so much for this. I came upon your blog by way of Pinterest after I searched “miscarriage”. Your post was equally heartbreaking and encouraging. Thank you for following The Lord’s tugs at your heart to write it. Now that I’m here, I’ve been reading through more and more of your posts and then clicked on the “encouragement” tab to find this one. Last Monday, July 21st, is the day we went to the ObGyn for our first ultrasound, fearing the worst. We were blessed to be able to get an appointment with my doctor, whom I adore (versus someone else from the practice, there are several). She was wonderful. She was very calm, and matter of fact yet still compassionate and empathetic, and walked us through all possible scenarios before the ultrasound. We got to see our baby, but there was no heartbeat, and I passed him or her in the shower the next afternoon. This was our first child and my husband and I were overjoyed at the idea of becoming parents. I feel so many things – hollow, numb, apathetic, heartbroken, shocked…but also encouraged, uplifted, supported, and loved. I’m not angry with God; I know He has a plan. It comforts me to think that when our little one isn’t in the arms of Jesus, they’re being held by our loved ones waiting for us in heaven, hearing stories about us from our friends who have gone Home already. This morning I woke up thinking about this time last weekend when I had so many plans for this little person, so many things I wanted to give them, anxious to meet them, and how much our lives have changed forever in the course of a few days. Then I looked outside and saw at least 10 sparrows playing in our backyard, and I knew it was going to be ok. His eye is on the sparrow and I know He watches me. <3

  • Terra says:

    As I sit in my car, desperate for a ‘free’ moment, with tears running down my cheeks, thank you!

  • Marisa says:

    This was much needed. Absolutely beautiful! Thank you.

  • Ardith Denney says:

    Yes, there are good days and bad days, but one thing is sure. God is always there. He is the best listener and the best encourager in His Word. We need friends, but our best friend is God our Father.

  • Mary Margaret says:

    Yesterday I had to make the decision to take my beautiful baby boy off of life support. 8 days will never be enough time to show a child love but that’s the only thing I could do for him. So today I woke up wanting a sign to just show me that it truly is gonna be okay. So like most women I tuned out to Facebook and a sweet girlfriend had posted this on her wall, so I opened it up and began to read. It was as if the note was just for me, like you knew what my soul needed to hear to face today. As I finish and catch my breathe I look up To see the most beautiful rainbow peeking out of the most ugliest storm clouds I’ve seen. I just wanted to share with out that today you touched my soul and tomorrow an everyday I know I’ll be okay, to go on an live life and not just live in it

  • Tonya says:

    Thank You!

  • Shana Cochran says:

    Thank you. :)

  • Suzanne says:

    Just wanted to say Thank You for your beautifully written honest article. It’s going to be OK is my motto. I am a nurse who became certified in cancer exercise and breast cancer recovery and at times some of my clients aren’t feeling the best or getting the best news. We need to just breath and know in our heart and mind that its going to be OK. It will be OK!

  • Anna says:

    wow, it is exactly what i needed today!! Thank you!!
    I am the divorced woman alone, going to watch a movie alone…my son is out of state, and my daughter is on a mission for 15 more months, so I am an empty nester..and It is going to be ok!

    Anna Carbone, Arvada, Co

  • Aubrey says:

    Just stumbled on this through a link someone posted on facebook… wow! Thank you for being that person who God used to speak directly to my heart, as I’m sure He did many others through this post… You have a new follower!

  • Stephanie says:

    I met a blogger several months ago for the first time. She was so well put together – poised, perfect hair, and amazing at managing her schedule. She also had a tattoo on the inside of her wrist that said simply, HOPE. I asked her about it. I love hearing people stories and most tattoos have a reason or a story. She said that it meant hope but also meant Hold On, Pain Ends. It resonates with me still. Much like this.

  • Marissa says:

    Thank you so much for this timely post. It was exactly what I needed to hear. It’s like you wrote this for me. Thank you!

  • Elaine says:

    Wonderful words – THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART!

  • S says:

    Although I am not a mother, I really feel that God uses your words in the exact ways that I need to hear them. I can’t tell you how much I needed that today. Thank you.

  • Evelyn says:

    Thank you! My grandfather use to say it all the time..and for some reason in the craziness of what I am going through, it is as if he is right here in your blog to remind me that everything is going to be ok.

  • Shay says:

    Thanks for the encouragement! My hubs is a touring musician with another job on the side to make ends meet, so he’s gone 90+ hours per week. Me and my two under two have a lot of “bonding” time. It’s so overwhelming at times, but eh always make it thru by the grace of God!

  • ashly says:

    As I got up this morning with the fear of knowing my 18 month old had yet again not slept well last nugh and today was gonna be a rough one…I found your post. It’s just what I needed to help me face the day. Sometimes we forget how strong we are and you reminded me. Thank you!

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  • Ashley says:

    So beautifully said. I’m having a hard day today. I should be 20 weeks pregnant but my water broke at 18 weeks and my second child was delivered. We were happy to have a son. My husband was so excited. My 4 year old daughter couldn’t wait to have a big brother. His room was complete. All of my sisters wedding photos are of me pregnant. He couldn’t make it because he was delivered to early weighing 7 ounces. I miss him so much but reading this has given me hope and some strength. Thank you!

  • Britney says:

    I never cry and this brought tears to my eyes. I’m in a place I never thought I would be, and I needed to hear that. Thank you.

  • Mandy says:

    I do not know what brought me to this either, but Thank You so much. You are exactly what I needed to read at this very moment. I think I was crying through the entire thing. Thank You Thank You Thank You! It IS going to be ok!

  • terri says:

    My daughter is awesome

  • Emily says:

    Just…thank you. Thank you so much.

  • Kat B says:

    This just popped up on my newsfeed on FB, and I just want to say thank you. Thank you for writing this and putting this out there for people like me that truly do need to hear this. I have been struggling with a lot, more than I expected to at my age, and your words just hit home. Sometimes the most simple of phrases and words make the biggest difference in someone’s life. Keep doing beautiful things.

  • Zamora says:

    Thank you so much. I am deployed right now. My youngest turned a year old the first day I landed in country and my oldest is about to start his first day of school and I am trying the be there from a world away. I needed this today. I appreciate your words of encouragement.

  • Cyn says:

    I read this thinking it was something that my daughter would need to read, having a newborn I’m always reminding her it “will be ok” and instead it was wonderful to hear someone say that to me. Thank you

  • Sharla says:

    My husband died a year ago yesterday! Thank you for reminding me it’s going to be okay!

  • Chelsea says:

    Thank you. So much

  • Carrie says:

    Thank you for this!!!

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  • Victoria Ramsey says:

    As I am sitting here crying in our living room about how much stress I’m under, how everyone around me seems to be doing fine. And I am struggling with some personal problems. I came across this. I needed to hear this at this moment sitting in the floor, and somebody shared this. Thank you!

  • Joanne says:

    Thank you so much for this.

  • Whitney says:

    I don’t know who you are, but thanks. That’s exactly what I needed.

  • Hey Becky !! It’s bruce/pop’s here to tell U that as a male I still find UR posts to be inspiring and filled with hope for those young parents in need !!

    I re-posted one to my site, and FB, twitter, tumbler, Google + and more…

    Blessings in Christ

  • Carleen says:

    Thank you. I saw this on a friend’s Facebook post. I needed this so badly. Even now, I’m still crying after reading it through a 2nd time. Thank you for reminding me to keep going.

  • Kayla says:

    Thank You, I was meant to read this. Such a blessing

  • Ana says:

    I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. This is exactly what I needed to hear… I feel like I am struggling as a parent and that some how I am doing something wrong. But this is just a rough patch and this won’t last forever. Again thank you.

  • Megan Wilson says:

    I really needed to hear this today. I’ve been struggling a lot lately; wondering how I’m going to cope with life’s recent events. I feel like calling it quits and literally laying in my bed and bawling my eyes out all day and night. But I have a daughter to take care of, so that isn’t possible. Even so, I can’t seem to come to terms. I’ve been trying to understand why and how things could have turned out the way they have, but I know that may never happened. I don’t mean to ramble on, I just wanted to thank you and let you know that you gave me a sliver of hope. Even if it was just for a moment. I just really needed this today. Thank you again.

  • Doreen Payne says:

    how did you know I needed to read this tonight? :(

  • Megan says:

    Thank you. I just got divorce papers from my husband who cheated on me. I appreciate your words. I’m trying to hang in there for my kids and the battle ahead, and those simple words are an encouragement.

  • Katrina Annette Moss says:

    Your stories are wonderful and have hit home with me. They are very encouraging and it makes me cry so much, I can release all the bottled up feelings and get on with my life that God has intended for me. You have been a God sent Angel and I would love to look forward to more stories from your life and more encouraging words to help me through life. Thank you so much, Becky

  • Ole says:

    such a beautiful heart you have. you are a blessing. thank you for being a beacon of His light and love. xx

  • This is fantastic and I feel so encouraged. I need to hear those words almost daily to get me through to the next day lol. Thank you.

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