It’s Okay.

It’s not your fault, you know.


It really isn’t. No matter how many times you have thought it. No matter how many times someone told you. It’s not your fault.

You know exactly what I’m talking about. Don’t you? You know exactly what your “it” is.

It is that thing that hangs over your head, in the back of your mind, the sinking feeling that creeps up just when you start to move on.

And it grabs ahold again, and you ask yourself, “What was I worried about again?”

And then you remember, “Oh yeah.”

If only that had turned out differently. If only I hadn’t forgotten to lock my car, or I had just said I was sorry, or paid the bill on time. If only I had tried harder, or not given up, or realized what was happening when it was happening.

“If only I could go back and change it, I would,” you promise yourself.

If only…

And we let the guilt of what has taken place in the past set the course for how we will face the future.

But, friend?

That guilt? That shame? That responsibility that you carry for how your “it” affected you and everyone around you?

You can let it go.

You can put it down today. Put down the shame – guilt – responsibility – weight – and decide to live in the fullness of today.

Because the truth about the past? Is that it always wins.

When you go back and replay those events, you cannot change them. You cannot rewrite them differently. They will always be the same events in the same sequence of time and no matter how many times you go over them in your mind, the outcome of what has already taken place will always be the same.

But today… Right now in this moment… As the black pixels on your screen make their way deep deep into your heart…

You can step out of that guilt.

Because even though the past always wins the past, we can choose victory for today.

You are not a failure. You are not worthless. You are not a screw-up. You are not a bad friend. Or daughter. Or mother. Or wife. Or person.

You are deserving of love. You are deserving of peace. You are deserving of a fresh start.

It’s okay.

Leave yesterday where it belongs. Give today a chance.



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  • Jae says:

    exactly what I needed today. thank you.

  • LAW says:

    I just left work and got in my car and took a breath for the first time this horrible day. I came across this and bawled. Your encouragement reaches far beyond what you will ever know. I feel like giving up today but your words have given me some comfort. Thank you.

  • Kelley says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this. It is exactly what I needed to hear today. I am now offering my worries up to the Lord! Thank you again!

  • kim says:

    I just got out of a bad relationship where everything was my fault I’m so glad I read this it made me cry, but it is what I needed

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