A few weeks ago, I overheard a conversation at the store between a husband and wife about how many “mom posts” were being shared Facebook. As a blogger, I couldn’t help but listen to their exchange. (Also, they were talking loudly and they were right in front of me in line.) The husband said, “Aren’t they all the same?” And his sweet wife looked at him and said, “Not to me.”
And it got me thinking. Are mom blogs just white noise? Like Mickey Mouse on in the living room while the kids play on the floor and I do the dishes? Or are they more?
Coming from someone with entire pages of “to the momma” posts… I hope that they are more. After thinking long and hard about it, this is what I have decided. Us mommas, or mamas, or mommies, or mummies, or mums? The ones that are stuck on the other side of our computer screens or mobile device wondering if anyone else feels the way that we do, the ones who spend our days thinking of everyone but ourselves? You had better believe that the post written “to the momma” feel like they were written just for us.
We come alive a little when we hear that somewhere there is another woman who just “gets it.” We want to reach through the screen and hug her when she makes us feel not so alone.
And Lord, bless her, if in the process she doesn’t make me feel bad about myself, or isn’t judgey, and might even make me laugh a little – since most of the time, I feel like I’m about two seconds away from flippin’ losing it.
We need to know that there are other women just like us who just want to eat our lunch, or take a shower, or be alone for five minutes. We need to know that there are other moms who wish that they had known how precious motherhood would be, or overwhelming it would be or how fast it would go by. There are stay at home moms who want to be seen, and working moms who want to be understood, and single moms who need a safe place to catch their breath. There are moms who need to know that they are more than their parenting, that their marriages will make it, and that they are doing a good job.
And all these posts? They gives us hope. They unite us. They help us see that we’re more alike than we realized. They tear down the “us vs. you” mentality that surrounds motherhood. They help us say, “You too? I thought I was the only one!” They show us that across the globe there are other women who want to be known for more than their parenting, but who at the same time don’t want to feel so alone in it.
So, as far as I’m concerned? Keep them coming. Keep sharing and liking and posting. And I’ll keep writing too. And together? We will see that maybe were not so alone after all.
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